Sandy Speaks…

I remember the day I screamed down the hall of my high school…  “Doesn’t anyone care any more?”

I was 16 and my Mom had died a few months before.  I was sitting in typing class and it unexpectedly and suddenly hit me how everyone was carrying on with their lives, as if nothing had happened.  I abruptly left the room in the middle of class, so no one would see the tears streaming down my face.  Mrs. Newsome followed and asked where I was going.  And, that’s when I hollered down the hall.

I left the school grounds, without permission, and spent the rest of the day sitting at my Mom’s grave.  That’s when I realized life does go on, even after a tragedy.  It doesn’t matter if it’s the personal tragedy of a young girl or one that affects millions of people.  Before you know it, everyone is laughing, shopping, sleeping, and talking about the latest celebrity gossip, as if nothing ever happened.

My Dad died three years after my Mom.  On Christmas Eve.  Yep… life went on!

It’s been over 30 years since I was that confused girl.  I now know that life needs to go on.  We can’t live in constant grief lest we miss out on the beauty of being alive.  I also know how much it means to me when someone expresses their support at the loss of my parents, even after all these years.

People will cease talking and tweeting about the disaster in Japan long before it’s citizens even start to recover.  The knowledge of that makes me feel a bit like that sad and confused 16 year old again.  So, I’m making a promise to stop and remember those affected, for years to come.

And, today I’m praying for the children who became orphans that day.  I’m praying for them to realize they will laugh, shop, sleep, and talk about trivial things again one day.  I did!

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I’ll admit I jumped over to Charlie Sheen’s Twitter page when I heard he’d started tweeting.  And, I confess to eagerly running out to my mailbox every Friday to grab the latest issue of People Magazine. My Friday night ritual has changed from dancing in the clubs to reading in my pajamas!

When I looked at Charlie’s Twitter page, it struck me how he’d already obtained almost 400,000 followers in the span of a few hours.  And, how he’d received almost 1,000 comments within two hours of posting his first tweet.  As I’m writing this, he has over 2,000,000 followers!

There was a part of me that thought, “Hey, wait a minute! I work hard to tweet positive, helpful, and informative things & spend time connecting with great leaders. Yet it’s taken me over a year to acquire 5,000 followers. Charlie Sheen comes along, after a wild tirade, and breaks a record in twenty-four hours? What’s up with that?”

Then, I thought, “Well, at least he’s got his millions of followers calling themselves winners now. That’s always a good thing!”

Though I wish him all the best, I chose not to follow Charlie. Other than my Friday night indulgence with People (and my occasional visit with The Bachelor and The Bachelorette), I don’t spend time keeping up with the antics of Celebrities Gone Wild!

Of course, we need to include entertainment in our life’s routine. In fact, Two And A Half Men is one of my favorite shows. It cracks me up and laughter really is the best medicine! Having said that, I strongly believe we need to be cognizant of who we spend our time following. My Mom used to say “You are who you hang around.” You also are who you spend your time learning from and from whom you emulate.

Do you spend the majority of your time watching and/or reading bad news? Do you hang around negative people? Do you follow those who make headlines by getting into trouble or who disrespect others? Or, do you choose to follow positive leaders who inspire you to be your best self, pursue your passions, and teach you how to live in peace, love, prosperity, and gratitude?

To achieve greatness in your life, make sure you surround yourself with greatness.  Who knows… maybe Charlie will hear how uplifting you are and start following YOU!

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It’s always hard to end a relationship.  Doing it the night before Valentine’s Day makes it a poignant heartbreak.

I didn’t plan to break up on the Eve of the day we celebrate love.  In fact, I had decided earlier in the day to continue on and see if the relationship could change/grow.

Then, it happened… an instant where it felt like someone poured freezing cold water on my head to wake me up!  And, I had to do what I had to do, regardless of the date on the calendar.

This post is not about him.  I wish him all the best and sincerely pray he finds the love of his life.

This is about me and the fact that I allowed myself to disappear.  Over the course of two months, I had become someone I didn’t even recognize.  In that moment of clarity, I realized I missed… ME!

I was surprised by how I’d let some pretty big parts of me go away.  And, I was unnerved by a new part of me that showed up.  It made me realize the sheer power that the need to love and be loved holds.

On our quest to find “the one,” we must not fall asleep on who we are, what we value, and why we want to be in a relationship.  If you’re acting differently or find yourself hoping things will change, it’s time to stop and examine your who, what, and why. Then, if you discover big things missing from what you want in love, you can pick a day to end things that doesn’t exude couples, candlelight, and Cupid!

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