Sandy Speaks…

When my three year old son, Jake, and I go for a walk or to the grocery store or anywhere for that matter, he acts as if he is running for Mayor.  He greets everyone with a cheerful “Hi” and  if he is not able to find out your name, he will make one up for you (and he always comes up with very interesting monikers for people)!

There was a time whenever my friends were worried that there was something wrong with him because he did not seem to connect.  He did not say the word “Mommy” until much, much later than his playmates.  In fact, he was the last one in our playgroup to roll over, sit up, crawl, walk, and talk although he is one of the eldest of the bunch.

I recently took him for his 3 year old check-up although he is 3.5 now.  I know, I know…I’m always late too (hey…wait a minute, maybe he comes by it justly?  And…before you judge my mothering skills, you must know that there were no major shots or anything involved in this doctor visit).  His Pediatrician was amazed at his level of communication (even though she had been somewhat skeptical that there was anything wrong when I showed up at her office in tears, one year ealrier).  “Did you put him in therapy?” she asked.  “No” I replied “About a week after my panicked visit, he started talking up a storm, in complete sentences and full of emotion & empathy, and he has not stopped since!”  She and I hugged!

I looked at her, contemplatively, and said, “You know…there is a life lesson here.  We are sometimes so quick to judge and we, so often, live our lives in a state of comparison.  Wouldn’t it be nice if we simply accepted each other, encouraged each other to reach our potential, and did not judge each other’s process of growth, whether we be children or adults?”  She smiled and said “Why yes, it would”.  After she walked out with her stethoscope in hand, I gave my child an extra hug and gave myself a break for the fact that I was at a place that some may view as “being behind”.  And, as I walked out of the doctor’s office, I thought “Watch out world…I might just run for Mayor!”

Today, on my 50th birthday, I would like to share 50 Life Lessons that I have learned.  Some of them are repeats of classics that are too powerful to re-word; some I have learned the hard way; some I am just now starting to implement; and some are humorous and meant to show that you should have fun in life!   Each one carries a valuable message so I hope you will savor them as you read…

My 50 Life Lessons

1.     Be true to yourself and follow your hearts desires.

 2.     Surround yourself with positive, supportive, and uplifting people.

 3.     Take responsibility for your actions and own up to your mistakes. 

 4.     Make decisions wisely and from a place of love and goodness, choosing to do what is in everyone’s best interest.

 5.     It’s okay to eat popcorn for dinner and sushi for breakfast.

 6.     Stand up for yourself and know that sometimes that simply means to move on, once you have done what is right.

 7.     Some people only come into your life for a season, and that’s okay.

 8.     Become an expert about something you’re passionate about.

 9.     Be honest.  Always.

 10.   Resolve issues quickly and with a calmness of spirit.

 11.     Give thanks all day long for all of your blessings, big and small.

 12.    Forgive others and yourself quickly…and move on.

 13.    Get on the floor and play with a child.

 14.    Establish traditions and keep them going.

 15.    Get 8 hours of sleep and drink lots of water.

 16.    Sit down with your parents and/or grandparents and have them share their life story.

 17.    Get married only if you have no doubts.

 18.    True friends are more valuable than gold.  Treasure them.

 19.    Never be judgmental and remember that what people think of you is none of your business.

 20.  There is no such thing as skirts that are too short, earrings that are too big, lipstick that is too bright, or heels that are too high when you’re going out!

 21.    Remove all negative influences from your life, including people who are toxic.

 22.   Be yourself, but be your best self.

 23.   Laugh.  A lot.

 24.  Travel to at least one foreign country.

 25.  Have a place for everything and everything in its place.

 26.  Always be the bigger person.

 27.  Reach out to help those less fortunate.

 28.  If you can’t say something nice about someone, then don’t say anything at all.

 29.  You are who you hang around.

 30.  Pursue your passions.

 31.   Keep a journal, especially a gratitude journal.

 32.  Write down your goals and take at least one action step toward them each day.

 33.  Be comfortable spending time with yourself.

 34.  Sing and Dance.  A lot.

 35.  Life is too short and too precious to hold grudges or to be jealous or envious.

 36.  Say “I love you”.  Often.

 37.  The minute you start to feel overwhelmed or stressed, take some deep breathes and count your blessings.

 38.   Eat Healthy.  Most of the time.

 39.   Do unto others as you would have done unto you.

 40.   Get massages.  A lot.

 41.    Regret is a wasted emotion.  Learn your lessons and move on.

 42.   Marry or date someone who loves to kiss.  A lot.

 43.   Be in the present moment.  You will never have that time again. 

 44.   Go to major events like someone’s wedding, graduation, funeral, or birthday party.  Once it is over, it’s over and you’ll never have a 2^ndchance to attend.

 45.   Read.  A lot.

 46.   Take lots of pictures and arrange or organize them as soon as possible.

47.  Go ahead and ask for what you want.  If the answer is no, you have not lost anything.

 48.   If someone writes you a love letter, keep it forever.

 49.   It is easier to keep up than to catch up.

50.  You can’t change anyone.  Think of how hard it is to change yourself.

 And…One to grow on:  Always Be on Time!

I had to write my annual poem
   As 2009 comes to an end
I am full of love and gratitude
   That to all of you I had to send.

Jake is now three years old
   He is friendly and such a little man
He is very tall with a head full of curls
   He speaks Spanish, sings songs, and is Mommy’s biggest fan.

Stephanie is a full-time student now
   And I can’t believe that Hailey has turned ten
I lost both Shakespeare and Spencer
   I sure miss my sweet, furry friends.

My family is happy and healthy
   A great-nephew named Luke Ryan arrived
I’m available to consult about real estate
   I still eat Mila each day to feel healthy and alive.

I created Gratitude Boot Camp
   Where I coach about counting your blessings
There is a Gratitude Boot Camp fan page on Facebook
   I can’t wait to see what miracles GBC brings.

I’m the Leader in Orlando and Celebration
   For a wonderful organization
Women’s Prosperity Network
   Is expanding throughout the Nation.

I’ve created a mantra for the New Year
   Let’s all say it together
Stand tall, Smile, and Shout Out Loud
   “2010 is my best year EVER”!

           HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

We had only been dating for a few weeks when he started saying “I want to have a baby with you”!  I looked at him like he had three heads!! 

As we continued in our relationship, he became more and more adamant about wanting to have a baby with me!  “This cultural difference is huge”, I remember thinking.  He had come over from Cuba on a raft 10 years before we met…I was born & raised in the Southern part of the United States.  His English was not bad…I could certainly understand those 8 words clearly!!!

Finally, I sat him down on my couch for a serious talk.  I explained to him that, not only had I been told that I could not have a baby for medical reasons, but I was now a girl over the age of 45.  “If you are wanting to have a baby that badly with someone, you really need to be dating a girl who is in her twenties or thirties” I said very slowly so that he would understand.  “No!  I want to have a baby with you”.  My final words on the subject were “Good luck with that!”

After dating for a while, I knew that I had to break up with him.  I had realized that this was not meant to be a long term relationship.  For one thing, he would not stop saying “I want to have a baby with you”.  It was getting annoying.  He had never even said “I love you”!  I had been telling my best friends that I was going to break it off, but every weekend we had some sort of plans that caused me to say “I’ll do it next weekend for sure”.  The weekend after Halloween was going to be IT.  I made sure that we did not make any plans whatsoever. 

At the beginning of that week, I realized that I was “late”.  I shrugged it off every day, although it was extremely unusual.  On Thursday, I found myself picking up a few things in Walgreens and, on a last minute whim, picked up a cheap pregnancy test!  I took it when I got home and it instantaneously became positive!  “Nooooooo” I said to myself in the mirror.  So, I took the other one that came in the box.  It also did not hesitate to turn into a plus sign.  “Oh…hell nooooooo” I said to my two cats who were looking at me like I had three heads!!!!  I jumped in my car and drove back to Walgreens to buy the most expensive pregnancy test I could find, telling myself that the reason that those two said “positive” was because I had purchased the cheapest one.  “You know that you get what you pay for, Sandy”, I berated myself.  When I got home, I read the directions…word for word…and it said that the best time to take the test was first thing in the morning.  “Oh…no wonder” I said to the two furry babies that I had raised since birth “Those others were cheap AND I did not follow the directions.”  I slept soundly that night knowing that, the next day, the expensive test would clear all of this up and I could proceed with the much anticipated break up.

First thing the next morning, my life changed forever!  “You have got to be kidding me?!!” I said all day long…over and over…to Shakespeare & Spencer, who were really wondering about me at this point.  I paced up and down the first floor of my house.  I checked the internet.  I called no-one.  I paced.  I searched. I called no-one.  All day long.

Late in the afternoon, I started bleeding.  “Oh no.  Seriously?  What a cruel joke to play on an old person!” I remember thinking!!!  I was supposed to go to my friend, Lori’s, for a jewelry party that night.  When I called her, I got her voice mail and left a message, sobbing ”Lori.  It’s Sandy.  I can’t come to your party.  I’m pregnant.  And, I’m bleeding.  Bye”.   It’s a miracle she’s still my friend!!!  I called the Doctor’s office begging to come in, but it was closing time on a Friday and they said no.  I remember feeling sad.  I laid on my couch all weekend and prayed that I would be a good Mom..if this was all really true and came to be.  I slept a lot.

On Monday, the doctor confirmed that I was indeed pregnant.  The bleeding had stopped and everything looked fine.  I went back into shock.  And…I realized that you really do have the power to move mountains if you want something bad enough.

Because of his intense desire, I was becoming The Accidental Mom…

Lately, I have really been working on my own personal self-development.  I have been blessed with the responsibility of raising a child and I am on a new journey of coaching others, so I have to hold myself to a higher standard.

One very important attribute that I’ve been concentrating on is the act of forgiveness.  One of the hardest things to do is to forgive someone who has caused you pain.  However, as I’ve recently discovered, it is extremely liberating to “get over it”.  When you do, the hurt no longer dominates your mind.  When someone hurts me, I generally become consumed with thinking about the incident or action over and over and over.  Or, I decide to retreat completely from the situation where the hurt took place.  It’s exhausting!

Recently, I was feeling very hurt by someone who I am close to in my life.  As the incident started playing over and over again in my head, I realized that I had to stop and forgive…truly forgive.  Which made me stop and look at things from their perspective.  It was amazing how I could physically feel the hurt going out of me and how I was crystal clear on the fact that I did not want to lose or mess up this valuable friendship.  I shudder to think of what might have happened if I were not in this period of working on myself!  Things are back to normal and when we discussed the topic again, it was in a really casual & relaxing way.  This forgiveness stuff really works!!

Of course, there are instances where someone hurts you to the point that you know that the relationship must end.  But, you still must practice forgiveness of that person…otherwise the incident/action continues to cause you pain and discomfort…even after the person is gone.  Even if you do not contact that person because you do not want to invite them back into your life, it is still very important to forgive them so you can move on from the negative thoughts.  And, it actually makes you feel at peace whenever you ask God to bless the person who was hurtful.  It helps to realize that some people are put into your life for a reason but were not meant to stay in it forever.  As you reflect back on your relationship with that person, in a relaxed state, you will find that there were lessons to be learned and you can be Grateful to that person for giving you those lessons.

It is also important to forgive yourself.  That is something that has been a bit of a struggle for me lately.  My whole life I have lived with the motto that “regret is a wasted emotion”.  But, this year, I have been kicking myself for some of the mistakes that I have made.  I finally have realized that the time & energy that I am spending on beating myself up could be spent on taking positive steps toward a bright, new future. 

So…if something hurtful happens now, I start working on the forgiveness aspect of it pretty quickly after it happens.  That way, I can move on toward my bright future.  And…I stop to count my blessings…that always helps me to truly forgive so I can finally forget!

Gratitude Peace Marble

I am always amazed whenever The Universe brings people together at the precise moment when they are on the same exact path!  I recently had this wonderful phenomenon happen to me and I not only acquired an amazing new friend; it solidified that my new business/mission is meant to be!

While attending Mega Book ’09, I was very fortunate to meet some remarkable people, including a gorgeous lady with a beautiful soul named Elizabeth Zachariah.  Elizabeth, along with her friends Cherie Duncan, Kim Roman Corle, and Jan Avant, made me feel completely welcome and I knew that they were women that I wanted to get to know better.  After the event, we all connected on and have stayed in touch through Facebook.

During the week that I decided to create Gratitude Boot Camp, I received a message from Elizabeth, the founder of Blue Marble 4 Life, Inc, stating that she wanted to ask me a question.  At that point, I had not shared my thoughts about Gratitude Boot Camp with anyone.  When I called her, she said that she was putting together a project that would send four Gratitude Marbles (to represent the four corners of the earth), along with a Peace Marble (inscribed with the word Peace in 37 languages), on a world-wide mission for peace.  Her plan was to appoint Blue Angel Ambassadors, throughout the world, which would host The Marbles and help to spread a message of Gratitude, Peace, and Love.  She said that she immediately thought of me (even though she had no idea that I had just decided to devote my life to promoting the power of Gratitude) when she was thinking of Ambassadors.  It was serendipitous and I felt very honored!

As a Blue Angel Ambassador, it is my duty to host a Gratitude Gathering; which brings people together to count their blessings and to take part in this special Global Celebration of Peace; as we send The Marbles to the next destination on their incredible journey.

So…it is with great pleasure that I am hosting an event named “Walk in Gratitude…Live in Peace” in my hometown – Celebration, Florida.  At 4:00 p.m. on 9/26/09, we will gather on the front lawn of Celebration’s Heritage Hall at Spring Park…wearing blue and carrying or wearing the peace sign…to view The Marbles (which are arriving in Celebration after their trip to Hale Barns, Cheshire in The United Kingdom); to sign the Gratitude Journal (which is accompanying The Marbles), and to record their visit to our great community.  Then, we will bid The Marbles a fond farewell as they leave Celebration and travel to Australia….while we continue on to Celebration’s Mona Lisa for a special “Happiness Hour”. If you are traveling to attend this special event, The Mona Lisa Suite Hotels is offering a special “Gratitude Rate” for the weekend.

You can visit www.BlueMarble4Life.com to watch the inspirational kick-off video; to track The Marbles’ travels; and to register/join The Blue Marble Tribe, if you choose.  If you join, you will receive your very own Gratitude Blue Marble and The Gratitude Pledge. 

If you cannot attend the Gratitude Gathering in Celebration, visit http://BlueMarble4Life.com to see if The Marbles are coming to your area!

You can also follow this exciting Global Celebration of Peace at www.YouTube.com/BlueMarble4Life; at www.Twitter.com/BlueMarble4Life; and at The Blue Marble 4 Life Fan Page on Facebook (http://bit.ly/pLPf3).

I believe that living a Gratitude-filled life can change the world and promote peace amongst all of God’s children.

With my 50th birthday fast-approaching (wow…that does not even sound possible, even as I put it in writing for all the world to see – yikes) and ever since I unexpectedly & miracoulosly gave birth at the age of 46.5; I have been feeling the need for a change in my life.  I have always felt that there was something more that I should be doing and over the past 3 years, that need has turned into a burning desire.

Through the wondrous power of social media, I was invited to attend an event that changed my life forever, by starting me upon the path of my new beginning.  The event was held the first weekend of June and was called Mega Book ‘09.  It was hosted by a man that I’ve long admired…Mark Victor Hansen.  He is a best-selling author (co-creating “The Chicken Soup for the Soul” series); the founder of MEGA Book University; a great leader & a philanthropist.

After attending what turned out to be a spiritual awakening for me, I decided that it was time to fulfill my life-long dream of becoming a writer and public speaker.  Every night for several weeks after Mega Book…I would lie in bed and, as I was drifting off to sleep, ask God to reveal to me what I should be doing right now to inspire and help others.  One night, I awoke at 2:00 a.m. with the words “Gratitude Boot Camp” practically screaming in my mind.  I ran downstairs and jumped on my computer and was ecstatic to discover that the domain names for GBC were available (and not even for a premium price…yay)!  I took this as a sign that this was what I was meant to do, at this moment.

For the past several weeks, I have been creating and am now launching “Gratitude Boot Camp” ~ A self-development program that guides attendees through positive and productive steps in order to Give, Grow, and Prosper!

During these hard economic times, it is the Mission of Gratitude Boot Camp to empower and inspire people to be aware of and focus on their current blessings and to take positive steps, based on Gratitude, that lead them down the path of Success & Happiness.

In the future, I will hold “Gratitude Boot Camp” weekends as well as offer many inspirational treats and tools such as webinars/tele-seminars.  Right now, I am conducting the boot camps on a weekly basis in the Central Florida area.  Gratitude Boot Camp covers 16 topics that are designed to help people grow personally, professionally, financially, socially, and spiritually, while having their heart lead the way!

If you are a business owner in the Central Florida area and would like to have me come into your office once per week to conduct a 16-week “Gratitude Boot Camp”, contact me today at 407.592.4663 or at Sandy@GratitudeBootCamp.com.

The Gratitude Boot Camp website will be operational soon.  In the meantime, please visit www.Facebook.com/GratitudeBootCamp for more information (and to become a fan)!!

This blog is a part of my new beginning.  I have reached the point in my life where I am ready to make a change…not only in my life, but in the life of everyone that I meet, know, and love.  I have always felt (and have been told by others) that I was supposed to take a leadership role and help others to overcome obstacles and hardships and to live a life filled with happiness, peace, and success…no matter what circumstances come along.  I learned first-hand, at a very young age, about staying positive in the midst of crisis.  Yet…somehow, a half-century has gone by (almost) and I have not stepped up to the plate. 

Well…now I am being driven by a powerful force to finally become what I am destined to be and to live the life of purpose that I know we can all achieve.  I have a responsibility to my precious child, and to everyone around me, to finally reach for the stars and to leave a lasting legacy.

Life is too short to hold grudges; to struggle; and to feel guilty about the mistakes that we inevitably make during our lifetime.  So…I am committed to going forth with confidence, faith, and courage to fulfill my life-long dreams and to guide others to a life of purpose, growth, and prosperity.

I am exceedingly Grateful for those who have been by my side through some very challenging times; for those who have encouraged me to “go for it”;  for those who will love me and support me as I take this leap of faith on my new journey; and for those who will not laugh at my dreams but will applaud my successes.  May God shine on you and bring you peace, joy, and abundance.

Please visit my blog often.  It is a work-in-progress and I welcome your comments and suggestions!