Wed 16 Mar 2011
Life Goes On…
Posted by Sandy Harper under Gratitude Boot Camp, Gratitude Habit, This Journey called Life
[7] Comments
I remember the day I screamed down the hall of my high school… “Doesn’t anyone care any more?”
I was 16 and my Mom had died a few months before. I was sitting in typing class and it unexpectedly and suddenly hit me how everyone was carrying on with their lives, as if nothing had happened. I abruptly left the room in the middle of class, so no one would see the tears streaming down my face. Mrs. Newsome followed and asked where I was going. And, that’s when I hollered down the hall.
I left the school grounds, without permission, and spent the rest of the day sitting at my Mom’s grave. That’s when I realized life does go on, even after a tragedy. It doesn’t matter if it’s the personal tragedy of a young girl or one that affects millions of people. Before you know it, everyone is laughing, shopping, sleeping, and talking about the latest celebrity gossip, as if nothing ever happened.
My Dad died three years after my Mom. On Christmas Eve. Yep… life went on!
It’s been over 30 years since I was that confused girl. I now know that life needs to go on. We can’t live in constant grief lest we miss out on the beauty of being alive. I also know how much it means to me when someone expresses their support at the loss of my parents, even after all these years.
People will cease talking and tweeting about the disaster in Japan long before it’s citizens even start to recover. The knowledge of that makes me feel a bit like that sad and confused 16 year old again. So, I’m making a promise to stop and remember those affected, for years to come.
And, today I’m praying for the children who became orphans that day. I’m praying for them to realize they will laugh, shop, sleep, and talk about trivial things again one day. I did!
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This is so true Sandy. Just yesterday I was speaking with my wife about the exact same subject. We were riding along just chit chatting and I said do you realize what has happened in Japan. Do you realize how many lives have been lost and here we are acting like everything is just fine.
She commented that 3years ago when I 26 year old son was killed, it was tragedy for us the worst day of our lives but for other people it was just a normal day.
Yes life goes on, but when it comes to our minds we should say a prayer for those suffering in Japan because it is not just another day for them.
Blessings,
Pat
Sandy,
Sorry that as a child life was so tough. So glad you learned how to enjoy life again. You are amazing.
Claudette
Thanks for visiting my blog, Pat. I didn’t realize you had lost a son. I’m so sorry for your loss. Please give your wife a hug from me! Hope to see you in the near future!
Blessings,
Sandy
Hi Claudette ~
Thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment on my blog post.
In spite of the hardships, my childhood was a happy one for the most part. I decided early on to live life to the fullest and to choose to be better, not bitter, when tragedy strikes or challenges appear.
I’ve always been blessed with amazing friends and that’s always helped see me through the dark days. I love social media as it helps to create new and wonderful friendships. I’m grateful for each old and new friend in my life (including YOU)!
With Gratitude ~
Sandy
Hi Sandy,
I guess we have been out of touch for a while (34 years). Sounds like you are doing well.
Your old friend,
Jeff
Thanks for sharing this story…very touching!
Thanks for reading and commenting, Dana!
Much Love ~
Sandy